Confessions of a Realistic Writer: What I Do When I’m Not Writing

//Confessions of a Realistic Writer: What I Do When I’m Not Writing

Confessions of a Realistic Writer: What I Do When I’m Not Writing

I’m a writer, but I’m not always writing. I’m a part-time writer. I don’t have time to be a full time writer. And honestly, I don’t think I want to be a full time writer, even if I could be. I once told a friend that I’m a passionate writer, but not a very ambitious one.

I’m in no rush to get published. And I have no intentions of being a prolific writer. I typically only write for 15 minutes a day. Hardly prolific. And that’s just fine with me.

So, what do I do when I’m not writing?

Confessions of a Realistic Writer: What I Do When I’m Not Writing

What I do When I'm Not Writing


I spend a lot of time with my family. My kid(s) are little so a lot of my time goes to them. And I wouldn’t have it any other way. My family is my first priority. Always. I hope to be able to write more once I’ve finished having children and their all in school.

But right now, it is so much more important for me to spend time with my little one(s). I’d much rather go to the park or the library than hire a babysitter so I can get my writing done. That may work for others, and there is no shame in that. But my personal preference is to be a stay at home mom. Ever since I was a little girl, that was my number one desire.

I also try to do a lot of house work. Laundry, dishes, grocery shopping. My husband is a huge help, and sometimes I rely on him so that I can find time to write among the chaos of a young family. But he works hard all day providing for our family so that I can be fortunate enough to stay home. So I work hard to have dinner on the table when he gets home. I work hard to have evening free to spend with him. That means I don’t have as much time to write. But that’s a choice I’ve decided is worth the cost.

Other Creative Pursuits

Sometimes I choose not to write because I have other hobbies too. I like to do puzzles. I like to read. I’m a runner, a beginner seamstress, and a chef. I love running races, sewing simple projects, and trying new recipes. I am interested in photography and I love travel. Even if it’s exploring the city I live in. We go to the zoo almost weekly!

Writing Related Activities

I’m not always the best at multi-tasking, but when I’m doing house work that leaves my mind free to wander, I listen to podcasts about writing. Or I will listen to Audible which helps me keep up on my TBR list.

I also try to read a physical book on a regular basis. I love listening to audiobooks, but I will never lose the passion of holding a book in my hand and curling up on the couch to read.

I also try to take time to meditate, something I’ve started doing recently. And sometimes I take a moment to sit and think about my writing. This can lead me to write thoughts down, but sometimes I just reflect on how well I’m doing, where I want to improve, and what goals I want to set. It’s a great thing to do regularly!

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By |2018-11-27T15:01:43-07:00August 31st, 2018|Writing Lifestyle|4 Comments

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  1. momslovelearning September 1, 2018 at 5:52 am - Reply

    I can relate to that. I have little children too and it is difficult to complete personal projects when they are around. I do not mind because spending time with them is prioritary anyway.
    As for your activities, I think you found a good balance. You do a lot for your family and you are also spending time for you and your writing. Writers also need to experience new things and to develop different interests in order to improve their writing.

    • Shelby September 1, 2018 at 9:32 am - Reply

      Yes! I absolutely agree about experiencing new things in order to improve writing. If we know how to write, but have nothing interesting to write about, we won’t go far. Thanks for the comment!

  2. Mpho September 5, 2018 at 2:56 am - Reply

    Lol! It felt like I was reading my own story. Do you have a global surveillence system? On a real note though, that is exactly my life and I can’t agree more. Family is a priority and being home to experience it is something I’d never trade for all the world…(unless if by owning the world I’d give being a fulltime mom the high status it deserves). Nowadays I only take 2 hours to write in a morning and then I’m good. It’s enough to keep me sane and to make me a better wife and mom. The day will come when my whole brood is in school all morning and well into afternoon. By God’s grace the day will come when they’ll be able to cook once in a while. On that day I will squeeze a few more hours out of a day to spend with my other family (my stories). Until then I think of this as my gestation period. A wonderful post! Thank you 🙂

    • Shelby September 5, 2018 at 3:45 pm - Reply

      I’m so glad you found you could relate to this post. Life is more than writing, but that doesn’t mean we have to give up that passion. We just have to balance it among other tasks!

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